This oration, delivered in Victoria, Australia, looks at ways of supporting families who have a child with a disability, whether it be through supporting the family to keep their child at home or through finding and supporting foster families. It shows the importance of flexible thinking based on day-to-today practical realities for families, and of really listening to people's needs - and dreams. Included is a section on what Rosenau's organisation has learnt about families' needs. Rosenau also debunks the myths held around family support. (Nancy Rosenau is Director of Community Services, Macomb-Oakland Regional Centre, Michigan, USA.) Keywords: Respite, Families, Accommodation